You don’t need to understand where this flirt is going
February 11th, 2006
Well, most of the time, all of us wonder whether she/he really likes us or is this just what we want to believe.
In fact, this is not the most important thing. Think about the difference between having sex for a quick orgasm and having sex with the one you care for, you love. In the latter, you always feel eager to sense her/his body, and enjoy “the moment” instead of focusing on having an orgasm. Of course, at the and, “coming” makes great sense in this second choice.
Like it occurs in making love, sleeping together, flirting is a process in which you don’t really have to know immediately what she/he thinks and feels about you. If that causes anxiety, you should sit back and try to enjoy the process of knowing her/him and sharing some nice daydream together.
This is really very important because this anxiety may cause many relationship to end before it really starts. By the time you get really anxious about what she/he feels towards you, you may fall into some behavior that in fact you would never committ otherwise.
Therefore, it is best to let yourself go in a relationship instead of thinking about what may happen tomorrow or even two hours later.
Enjoy life.
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1. writer | February 11th, 2006 at 9:05 am
this curiosity is all about humanity.
people want to put your issues in small boxes, so they can search new victims for the new boxes.
because of that, we dont want to see a new UNKNOWN personality (new issue) he/she makes us uncomfortable.
we are so busy to know new people, we see ourselves very important person! then, we dont want a new flirt, if this has a dead end.
this seems so superficial and unreal. you are right, this is not real. the reality is that: we want to be loved, because we are so alone and we fear from everything, especially new ones. so we want to be loved, and we want to hear it all the time.
these two different reason go to same conclusion: we want to know other’s feelings, and there is nothing wrong about it. we care about other’s thoughts, attitudes, and many other irrelevant (?) things. we are just humans.
himm, if curiosity turns to anxiety, then there is a problem. but, again, this is just about humanity.
curiosity does not kill the cat
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