Sex and Relationships

Dealing with a depressive lover - 1

December 18th, 2006

One of the most challenging situations in a relationship is to deal with a partner who is in depression. Depression may come in different shapes and sizes. The difficulty may vary according to this shape and size.

A depressive lover may want to have sex more than she/he wants under normal circumstances. It is also possible that she/he no more wants to have sex for a while. Both are natural consequences of a depression. You shouldn’t get tense about this. It’s not you.

You can help her/him heal herself by showing that you still love her with all of her faults, her worries and her depression. Knowing that you will not leave her/him alone would be a good point for the depressed person to feel secure and heal more quickly.

By the way, let’s have look on what may be some basic symptoms of depression:

(source: Depression, not Depression from Psychology Blog )

Here are some basic guidelines that you can test yourself briefly, whether you are suffering from depression or not:

• difficulty in sleeping, sleep disorders: if you sleep less than usual or more than usual, and if this continues longer than two weeks, this may be an indicator of a depression.
• abnormally increasing or abnormally decreasing sexual desire: if you feel that you need less sex than usual or you need more sex than usual and if this continues longer than two weeks, this may be an indicator of a depression.
• abnormally increase or decrease in appetite, if this continues longer than two weeks, this may be an indicator of a depression too.

Apart form this basic, mini test, you may feel miserable and depressive after a loss of a loved one, an end of a romantic relationship, a financial loss and alike, that doesn’t mean you are in a depression medically. So, that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with your flow of serotonin in the brain.

(..to be continued)

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