Archive for February, 2006
This is one of the favorites of monthly magazines that cover things like relationships, men and women, etc.
Why do we feel difficulty on taking the fisrt step to know her/him? What is so uneasy with this?
Taking risks are always an area of the unknown. We may be very afraid with the fact that we are going to get rejected, humiliated, etc.
However, you can try to think yourself as the person, that being in her/his shoes, how would you reacty to someone that tries to know you better?
How would you reply if someone wants to have a drink with you? How would you behave towards somebody that calls you and invites you to dinner? Would you always yell at them? Probably not.
So, you are not the only one that can behave kind to people that asks something from you. Many people won’t immediately reject you or humiliate you in any way that you are afraid from.
You should just begin to try and take yourself out of that prison which is built by your own hands and mind.
Try it. Better now.
February 28th, 2006
While internet brings us speed on many areas of our lives, it also makes it easier to meet new people.
There are many matchmaker sites on the net as you all know.
I like them a lot because there have been a very new way in which a new kind of flirt emerges.
Some psychologists claim that this would distort one’s perception of reality whereas some other professional say that this new kind of relationship may be just fun and may be valuable for personal development.
I for myself, think that dating sites is an excellent way of seeing that you have choices in life. Even though you may meet nobody over the net in your real life, you may find the opportunity to develop your communication skills with the opposite sex, or the sex you may enjoy.
Sometimes we really need to exercise communication skills before we meet the real world.
Internet do this for us.
February 16th, 2006
Every human relation involves communication. Verbal communication only occupies about 30% of that communication. Rest is nonverbal.
Sometimes, in some relations, some people tend to communicate via violence. That is a harsh, impolite, and weak way of communication.
Please keep in mind it is a way of communication and it implies that the person is not able to communicate otherwise.
You should of course protect yourself against him/her. I won’t tell about ways to protect yourself here, you can find many resoursec on the net on that topic.
I just would like to emphasize that people who demonstrate aggression and violence in a relationship do have real communication problems. Violence is a miscommunication.
However, you shouldn’t feel guilty about this miscommunication because you are not the cause of this aggression/violence.
You should decide for yourself. Nobody deserves violence.
February 16th, 2006
I came accross this photo during visiting flickr. She is really nice, a lovely face and I tought to myself, what is it that makes her more attractive to me than other women.
Well, for me, it’s the face and hair, phsyically but I think there is more than that.
I call this “aura” what the person in this photo makes me feel about myself and herself.
We tend to think that it’s the clothing, the beauty, the cosmetic, however attractiveness is not limited to those features.
I think it’s the way you give an impression to your face. The rest is not so important. It’s the eyes, I think.
February 15th, 2006
Sometimes, you suddenly feel that you are very ready to enter into a relationship however there aren’t anybody around you!
At those times, you should take a deep breath and think about your options. Always realize that you have options in life. You can easily call your friends and arrange a meeting where you can see friends of firends. It is also possible to start walkings or jogging in parks, in which usually you will see somebody that will interest you.
Since you now know you have options, you should also realize that it is only ourselves that brings us alone.
February 14th, 2006
Today, a friend of mine showed up on msn and told me that he fall in love with a girl where he talked to on msn messenger.
I wondered and asked about how she looks like. The answer was quick and shocking to me: “I don’t know, I have no idea!”.
Now that’s interesting, falling in love can be at any time, anywhere, anyhow. I understand that. However, I feel difficulty on understanding how to fall in love on an instant messenger, without seeing her.
Dating, even a blind date involves some physical proximity. I am not against the idea that two people may love each other without seeing each other phsyically but I think that falling in love has to do very much with physical appearence.
February 14th, 2006
Sometimes, psychological impotence may just be an indicator that you are angry towards her and you don’t want to please her for the moment.
Men usually tend to feel weak whenever an impotence arises. They tend to think that they are not man enough. It is a great trouble for them that their most important sex-toy is not functioning.
Impotence may have medical causes like mulfunction in the blood-vessels, or heart related diseases, and alike. However, there are also psychological reasons of impotence that can be solved through talk therapy, meditation, or some technique that will uncover the underlying anxiety.
Some psychological factors may be every-day-life related stresses but some factors are purely related with your relationship. An erected penis, is a wonderful tool for a man to please his wife/lover/girlfriend/etc. Sometimes, a not-functioning penis may tell you about that you just don’t want to please her, unconsciously. Reasons for this punishment may vary.
Most effective way of handling this and going through it is talking. Talk to your partner about what makes you angry, breaks your heart. If not, try to listen to yourself and understand what kind of anger may have caused you to cease pleasing her.
Don’t forget that this is only one approach and just a possibility about your impotence. There may be many other reasons, or it may be that you just don’t want to have sex for that moment only.
Enjoy life.
February 11th, 2006
Well, most of the time, all of us wonder whether she/he really likes us or is this just what we want to believe.
In fact, this is not the most important thing. Think about the difference between having sex for a quick orgasm and having sex with the one you care for, you love. In the latter, you always feel eager to sense her/his body, and enjoy “the moment” instead of focusing on having an orgasm. Of course, at the and, “coming” makes great sense in this second choice.
Like it occurs in making love, sleeping together, flirting is a process in which you don’t really have to know immediately what she/he thinks and feels about you. If that causes anxiety, you should sit back and try to enjoy the process of knowing her/him and sharing some nice daydream together.
This is really very important because this anxiety may cause many relationship to end before it really starts. By the time you get really anxious about what she/he feels towards you, you may fall into some behavior that in fact you would never committ otherwise.
Therefore, it is best to let yourself go in a relationship instead of thinking about what may happen tomorrow or even two hours later.
Enjoy life.
February 11th, 2006
